The Power of Words in Shaping Lives

​by: Ame-Phil O. Saquiban

​This value focus emphasizes the importance of having control over the use of our words. It speaks of our ability to choose our words carefully, considering the content, manner, and timing.
 
Firstly, we need to pay attention to the content of our words, as they can either build or destroy lives – both our own and those of others. Speaking words of encouragement and hope can uplift others, boosting their morale and enthusiasm, which ultimately leads to increased productivity in the workplace. On the other hand, others are demoralized by our words when the contents do not inspire and spur energy. Additionally, we will also be adversely affected by our words when we speak lies or deceptive words. Such actions can lead to serious consequences including legal penalties for offenses like libel, perjury, contempt, fraud, or falsifications. This underscores why taming the tongue is anchored on the core value of integrity.
 
Secondly, we need to guard how we use our words, as they can be interpreted in many ways. Words spoken loudly may be perceived as angry and offensive to the listener, while soft-spoken words may suggest secrecy and deceit. Manner therefore reflects the conduct and character of the person speaking. Someone who knows how to deliver a message appropriately is regarded as a discreet, cautious, refined, and mature individual while a person who is careless in words, unmindful of its consequences, is regarded as vulgar, rude, and abrasive.
 
Finally, the timeliness in the use of our words must be highly considered if we are to tame our tongue. Timing does not only refer to the date and hour but also the context and the seriousness of the situation. Words that are spoken during the pronouncement of oath or promise are given more weight because of its severity and seriousness as compared to words spoken during casual conversations. Words uttered in an oath or covenant are considered sacred and serious, thereby, failing to uphold them may lead to consequences. A person found to be faithful or committed to agreements and pledges is deemed a person of integrity, whether in private or public affairs.
 
Words spoken in private affairs such as in marriage vows, when violated, are actionable wrong such as in breach of promise to marry or breach of contract which gives the other party the right to claim for damages. In the same manner, affirmations or statements of allegiance in public settings such as the oath of office are also treated seriously. When not sustained due to a lack of accountability, it can lead to various administrative offenses. It is given credence and protected by law to preserve the public faith, thus, the provision in our constitution, that public office is a public trust.
 
We should always remember to stay committed to our vows that were witnessed by people as well as God. Our fidelity to every promise we make reflects our integrity. We must, therefore, be mindful of our words, as they can bring either death or life. The tongue is likened to a rudder that, while it is very small, can steer a large ship. Knowing the power of our words, we must resolve to be wise in our speech – being careful about what we say, how we say it, and when to speak. The Scripture has correctly admonished us: “Do not be rash with your mouth, and let not your heart utter anything hastily before God, for God is in heaven and you on earth and therefore let your words be few”.